It Could Have Been…Let’s Talk Regret…

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REGRET.

It is a powerful concept.

One that can shatter you and break apart your spirit on a daily basis. One that haunts before death. One that sits next to us as a constant companion in older age.

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I went to Las Vegas this weekend for a Bachelorette Party. It goes without saying I ate a lot, had more to drink than I normal would, danced until all hours of the evening in very high heels and slept very little. Fun right? Tiring…even more so! I don’t know if I am cut out for Vegas for more than a few days. I am too active and love the outdoors. I would rather drive up and hike the Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim-to-Rim!!!  Somehow that seems less exhausting! Haha!

Anyways, a good and FUN time was had celebrating the Bride. My flight home got me up at 5:20 am on the Sunday of Daylight Savings…yikes!

As I made my way into the cab line surrounded by the numerous women and men falling over each other and being pushed into cabs I just laughed and smiled. I wondered and made up in my head what stories they would have to tell later in the day as they sit poolside. As my cab driver pulled up, I could almost feel the relief he had  that I had a backpack on and running shoes.  It was apparent from my puffy eyes that I was TIRED and up early but I wasn’t going to puke in the back of his cab. We smiled and I said I was heading to the airport.

I immediately liked him because he asked how I wanted to get there and since time wasn’t on my side I opted for more expensive but FASTER. So off he went.

So I like to talk to people. I like hearing their stories. I like engaging. I especially like to do this with cab drivers. They ALWAYS seem to have fascinating stories and backgrounds. Let alone some amazing advice. I have a particular cab driver that I have become friends with and my mom and I use him exclusively in Chicago. We know and ask about each other’s families and I gave his family a little Christmas gift. He is a friend now. Everyone you meet has potential to teach you and become a friend.

So back to my Vegas driver…

We were chatting about where we were from and got talking about his time in Maryland. It only took a few questions and me saying how there were a few really well run Ironman branded races there to get his passion flowing. He talked about the mountains and ocean. The weather and the food. It was wonderful to hear how much he loved this little state that I had never been to.

Then he asked me about Vegas and I was telling him about my time there. I mentioned how Vegas (in general) wasn’t my thing because I like to swim, bike, run, do yoga, lift weights, hike and basically be active outside. Which then got us talking about all there is to see around Las Vegas, Arizona and Southern Utah. The red rocks and ultimately the Grand Canyon.

We exchanged our stories from the first time we both saw it. How majestic and moving that moment was. How the pictures just don’t do it justice. We talked about how even though we both aren’t religious people you can’t deny the massive energy and spirit at the Grand Canyon. It moved us both spiritually in a way that can’t be described unless you have that moment yourself.

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He went on to tell me that he had a few regrets in life but one big one. He was offered the chance to hike down into the canyon and do some hiking and exploring along the river. He turned it down. He regrets that and has for MANY years.

I locked eyes with him in the rear view mirror and said, “Why would’t you do it now? What is stopping you from STILL having that adventure you CRAVE so much?”

He just shook his head and rattled off a bunch of excuses about his friends moving away and nobody to do it with now. He didn’t know how. He wasn’t in shape. Ect, ect, ect.

I sat and listened and we got talking about how amazing it would be to have that experience and I dream of doing the Rim-2-Rim-2-Rim run one day.

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As we got to the airport I paid my fare and we exchanged good-byes. I got out of the cab only for a second before I got back in and sat down. He turned around to look at me like, what are you doing? HA!

I looked him straight in the eyes and said:

You go hike that Grand Canyon ok. You just GO and do it.

NO excuses. Find new friends to do it with.

Learn to do it yourself.

Get in shape and GO live out that dream.

Don’t let THAT regret haunt you any longer. Don’t let that regret haunt you the rest of your life.

Promise me. You will go!

He looked earnestly and a little ignited in his eyes. He was quiet and then said:

Ok. I will go do it somehow. No regrets.

We smiled at each other and I said good-bye again. I got out of the cab, smiled one last time, shut the door and walked away.

I will probably never see that man again. Nor will I ever know if he went and hiked down into the Grand Canyon.

BUT

I do know that the possibility is there in his mind now. The seed planted.

And then it got me thinking about regrets…

Regret is SO powerful but we are stronger than regret.

I thought to myself what is something that I want or NEED to do that I know in my spirit and heart I will end up regretting if I don’t do it. What is burning in my soul and what should I be focusing on?

Some of the saddest words are:

It might have been…

I might have done…

I wish I would have…

I regret not doing…

I decided then and there I wouldn’t live with any regrets. I have always been a follow my heart and dreams kind of girl but sometimes life gives us situations like this one in the back of a cab for me…that put a little gusto into our step!!!

There are definitely some things I have been holding back on. Scared shitless to do or create. A lot of surrender and giving up control to make a few other things happen. But I am ready. To live without regrets. I would rather try and fail than be safe and never know. But I do know that if you at least try…you will never be able to regret…It may not work out the way you intend but you KNOW! And you TRIED! And living that vulnerable and passionate life is worth the risk!

It is funny the wisdom we can learn from other people…even while sitting in the back of a cab in Las Vegas.

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What can YOU do that will put you on a path to no regrets in life?

Sign up for THAT race?

Travel to THAT place?

Kiss THAT person?

Fall in LOVE after heartbreak?

Take THAT job?

Go after a NEW career?

Spend more time with YOUR family?

Say you are SORRY?

Don’t waste another minute. The ONLY thing certain in life is that we have NO clue the amount of time we have left. So don’t waste it.

Follow your heart. Chase your dreams. Live with passion. Do the impossible.

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6 comments

  1. Jayme says:

    Very powerful message. I needed to read this today. I’ve been following your IG account for a little while now and LOVE your posts and your messages. Thank you for keeping me inspired!

  2. Maury says:

    I just found out last night that two of our dental school friends died in a small plane crash in Idaho. They left behind four kids. FOUR. Me and my husnand’s same age. I can’t stop thinking about what I would do differently if I knew I would be leaving soon, and leaving my kids behind… It’s a sobering thought. This post comes at a good time for me.

    And….. I will do Rim to rim to rim with you! I’ve been dying to do it for ages and can’t find anyone willing to come along!

    Cheers to no regrets!

    • I found out a couple days ago a good friends family member lost her battle to cancer. I had been following her journey for years now. She left behind a young son and adoring husband. It makes you realize how precious life really is.

      Lets plan R2R2R one day!!!!!!

  3. Julie says:

    On a somewhat unrelated note, I really want to do rim to rim. It is on the shared spreadsheet Jeff and I have of places to travel and things to do.

  4. Linnea says:

    Once my leg and hip are healed I would love to do rim to rim with you too! All of your posts are so wise and motivational and right now truly helping me get through the hiccups in my own life! Thank you, and you will never know how many people you have truly inspired 🙂

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