GOOD ENOUGH MOM Monday
Can this be a thing?
Between us Moms. Women. Sisters. Wives. Daughters. Friends.
Let me tell you a little story…
Recently I had a profound talk with someone. It truly impacted the course of my life. Through this discussion, I freaking FINALLY accepted that I was a
GOOD ENOUGH MOM.
I am SO flawed it is ridiculous and as glamorous as life can look in a square box on social media, I am the first to raise my hand to say my life is a beautiful mess. It is MINE and I love it and LIVE the shit out of it, but it is a beautiful mess. I would guess you could all nod your head the same as you are reading this. We ALL could.
My heart goes out to us Mom’s though in particular right now. I once wanted to be the perfect Mom to my kids. I love them so fiercely that I wanted them to have that from me. But guess what I learned in the process…I was dying inside a little each day because there is NO way come hell or high water that I was going to EVER live up to that standard.
A perfect mom doesn’t swear in front of her kids.
A perfect mom doesn’t yell.
A perfect mom doesn’t lock herself in her bedroom and turn on the shower just to drown out the noise once a week.
A perfect mom actually showers once a day so she smells nice and her hair is clean. Like even when she works out.
A perfect mom is always cheerful, radiant and her kids never drive her bat shit crazy.
Well, I fell short. I fall short. On the daily. Like the days when my child only eats macaroni and cheese for all three meals and the days I threaten that their toys will burn if they don’t go to bed.
But here is what I decided.
I am a GOOD ENOUGH MOM.
And knowing and living that title makes me a take a deep breath out that says … ahhhhh …. I can live with that one.
What is a GOOD ENOUGH MOM?
Let me tell you…
It is Me.
It is You.
It is your neighbor.
It is your wife.
It is your daughter.
It is your sister.
It is your partner.
It is your spouse.
It is your friend.
It is all of us.
We are ALL
GOOD ENOUGH MOMS
Even though I would venture to say weekly, if not daily, we feel like we are failing miserably and our child will need years of therapy just to turn out to be a civilized adult.
WE are not failing! We are loving. We are kind. We are tolerant. We are accepting. We are teaching. We are inclusive. We are in this crazy ass thing called “keeping small humans alive” TOGETHER.
We are GOOD ENOUGH MOMS.
And we need to not only remind each other of this, but remind ourselves. So go look into the mirror when your babies are fast asleep and tell yourself. OUTLOUD. That you are a GOOD ENOUGH MOM. You deserve that. Because you are.